I Dare you to be Happy

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I know so many women who are unhappy. I’m not talking about day to day happiness, I’m talking about deep down unhappiness. Like the stuff depression is made of. As someone who has been severely depressed and someone who has been working my way to happiness one day at a time. The biggest change I made in my life is to change my negative thinking. 

First step was to rid my life of negative people. I surrounded myself with only my friends and family I knew were good hearted and wouldn’t hold me back. I kept those around me that Loved me as much as I Loved them. Those ride or die bitches (both male and female)!  I will go into this in more detail in another post.

Then I made the biggest change. I stopped using negative words, not in my head, not out loud.

So if I didn’t want to do something with a friend or despised something it would come out like this: 

I Hate that = That may be suited for someone else

Yuck I would never go out with a bald guy = I like guys with long hair, it’s more towards my type.

Urrgh I don’t ever get what I want in life and everyone else gets it without as much work as me = Life can be hard sometimes but I will preserve like my friends who were in similar situations that have become successful. Maybe their path was smoother but I will savour mine when I get there, the bumps will let me appreciate it.

Simple steps to a positive life. 

Also watch more comedies, laughter is the best medicine of all to stay positive!

Xoxoxo

Purple Cabbage with mushrooms and chicken 

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There is really something mesmerizing about cooking purple cabbage! It just changes colour it’s like looking directly into a lava lamp! 

Anyway I made this beauty of a dish (over ramen) for the kids and just plain for me and the hubby! 


It was so easy!

Half a purple cabbage chopped with 4 chicken breasts also chopped. 

I sautéed the mushrooms in one pan with garlic sesame oil and then added 1/4 cup soy sauce and seasonings.

In my wok I sautéed my cabbage in sesame oil (two turns), 1/4 balsamic, 1/4 naturally brewed soy sauce, a few shakes of onion powder, garlic powder and salt (all to taste) and kept turning it with tongs until it cooked. 

Then mixed it all together! 

I don’t miss the carbs with this dish at all!

Morning Shake

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I have finally found my morning shake bliss! 

Let me say that I hate having shakes so I started experimenting, because my morning coffee and I needed to break up. It was getting sweeter and creamier by the day and just killing me calorie, sugar and Fat wise. 

I came up with something that instantly brought me back to my Mom’s Indian style Cold coffee, that she would make with ice cream!

I made this using sun warrior vanilla protein powder (one scoop) two shots of HOT instant espresso, one cup almond milk, and one spoon pure maple syrup, blended with ice (I poured the hot espresso rover the ice out of fear that the ninja might explode) 
I SHIT you not, this thing tastes like my Mom’s Indian style ice coffee that she makes with ice cream!!!

5 ways to stop being a Judgy Mom

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1. Don’t give unsolicited advice. Unless you are asked for help specifically about a topic keep your opinion to yourself.

2. When a Mother is out without her child, don’t ask where the child is. She probably has enough Mom guilt and if not she needs a break and doesn’t need to be reminded of her baby

3. Unless you have something nice to say like “here let me hold the baby for a minute so you can sit” or “wow you look amazing” something along those lines chances are you are gonna say something bitchy like “oh wow your house looks like a hot mess you should call my service” or “you look so tired” No shit Sherlock!

4. This one may sound strange, but people really do this, asking; “What’s wrong with your kid, why does he/she do ___________?” I had someone ask me why my kid doesn’t stop asking questions, or some ignorant crap like that. For a new mom it can be worrying, because lets face it you aren’t REALLY concerned why he’s doing something you are just pointing it out to be a cow, and not the good kind of cow either. I’m talking about those moo faces that chew cuud while giving you side eye. 

5. If you ever feel the need to say “I would NEVER do __________ with my kid, can you believe that?” Unless the blank was some form of child abuse get the pickle out of your bum and understand that every single person in this world is different! If we don’t differ in how we raise our children how will we ever teach them to respect each other’s differences. 

Children learn to be bullies from their parents so if you are acting all high and mighty around your friends and your children, you are setting your kids up for failure in life, let alone the playground!

7 Online Shopping Hacks

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I shop for EVERYTHING online. 

Take that in…

Here are my steps:

1. Get a PayPal Account and add your credit card that gets you the most points for shopping. 

2. Get an EBates account. It’s a referral website that pays you quarterly for your online shopping. This month my cheque coming May 1st is 200+ CAD! That is more than I get paid (after taxes for one day of work) 

3. Have an Amazon, Walmart, and Well.ca account (if in Canada) and set up subscriptions (amazon and well) or Autosave (Walmart) for basics like toilet paper, paper towel, garbage bags, diapers wipes (thank God I don’t need the latter for the kids any more). Every month These sites send you a reminder that you have An order coming up to review. 

So go into your accounts on the site and confirm by comparing them to each other that you have the lowest price and order from the site that is lower, also check for online coupons (usually more on Amazon)

4. Before putting through any purchase online check to see if the retailer is affiliated with ebates. If you find the retailer there, click on their link from ebates to put your order through. 

5. One more step before you put through that purchase google ” (retailer name) promo or coupon code” and try every single code you can find before putting through an order. 

6. This one is more of an individual choice but I LOVE ebay for unique pieces or even etsy. I bought my kids identical light up sneakers for 20 bucks for 2 pair on ebay that their friends at school got from a kiosk in the mall for 40+ IDENTICAL! Because the ones at the kiosk aren’t name brand either just some gimmicky shoe trend that the kiddos are crazy about. I’m supporting an individual in China that isn’t trying to rip me off!

7. If you Live in Canada the best credit cards for points that is free is the PC Elite MasterCard. Hands down. Last year alone on my groceries (which i do in store) made me almost 2000 that I put towards my groceries, you can also save up and buy gift cards at Christmas for people, or even one couple made a mortgage payment with it! 

If you travel the SPG Amex gets the most value for your dollars spent towards hotel stays, but there is a fee. 
I’m not affiliated with any of these companies. I do love shopping with them, and I literally cannot go back to shopping in store anymore, lugging around those giantic boxes and bags from Costco or just parking there any day of the week! I hate it!  

Also if you are worried about fraud online, make sure you always use paypal. I can’t tell you how great they are with disput resolution. So many times I’ve had to deal with shitty sellers that didn’t send me anything at all or even say their tracking says I got it when I clearly didn’t (I have full HD cameras at my home and know all of my couriers). Also during the holiday season tip your couriers, this isn’t necessary but you know they save me from those in store shopping messes, making them some baked goods and a card with cash is my way of saying thank you (also my Nana was a Mailman for years here so I feel obligated to him)
If you like this post please share it, because I really want people to stop looking at me like I’m crazy! I’m literally making thousands of dollars per year on stuff I Have to buy!

In Love with The Shape of Me

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Before I had kids, I was between a size 00-3, which is still very strange to me. Anyway, I was probably at my healthiest weight right before I got pregnant mostly because I was working out everyday and gaining muscle mass, I was about 113lbs but still skinny fat. I had that pooch of extra skin around my tummy from my first pre-pubescent weight loss and I still had thighs that touched and I still had my bum!

Since having my kids it has been very hard for me, I developed a massive Seroma after both of my csections, and it would hurt to workout let alone attempt to get my old shape back.

Recently I’ve been around people who are obsessed with weight, and are so self deprecating it hurts me to hear them say the things they say about themselves. Here is the thing about me 40 lbs heavier than I was prior to having kids, and I’m pretty much “in Love with the Shape of me” most of extra 40 is on my hips bum and Boobs (after getting my seromas dealt with surgically). The older I get the more I realize what my body is capable of. 

Did you know I can do 100+ weighted squats a day and I do! Every chance I get. I can run around with my kids, I can keep them on their toes! I don’t know ver get jealous of another woman trying to better herself. I know that for me after having children I realized my body is intolerant of a lot of the food that I was eating. Now I eat and make food for my family that keeps us all healthy and happy and doesn’t have allergens in it for us. Like I crave salad, but by most people’s beauty standards I look like I crave cakes! Ha! 

I was a skinny fat judgy biatch before I had kids, who couldn’t cook to save her life! 

Now I enjoy my food, I savour it, I experiment and I do steroetypically love feeding my children food that they say is yummy or dee-licious. 

In the past 7-8 years I’ve grown so much in mind, body and soul I would NEVER want to go back to that miserable version of myself. My Body has produced 2 beautiful boys, it has scar tissue, scars, stretch marks,  Chubb-Rub on my thighs, muscles, curves, and tattoos for days and I don’t think I would change any of it!

When you start Loving yourself everything else really does fall into place!